Friday, July 15, 2016

My Brand New Book: The Purpose Room




I am SO excited to announce to release of my brand new book, "The Purpose Room: A Meeting Place Where You Discover, Birth and Accomplish Your God Given Purpose." Gosh, this book was so hard to write. If I can be totally honest, it challenged me and made me uncomfortable to write the book because it exposed the areas that I really needed to work on regarding my purpose. Areas like procrastination. Being lazy. Being distracted. Putting things off "for another day" because I am tired with these two kids. Feeling inadequate. Feeling like "why should I bother doing this, God?" AND even comparing my calling to other peoples callings. So, pretty much - this book kicked my butt in a good way!

If you're struggling with WHAT is my purpose or, you're afraid of stepping out into your purpose or, maybe you're simply in a dry season and you don't see what God promised, then THIS book is for you! I pray that it ministers to you the way that it healed me. I am NOW more focused, less distracted and determined to complete what God called me to do. I pray the same for you!

You can find it here:  or via Amazon/Kindle! I will be personally signing the books for the month of July that are ordered through my personal website! 

As I wrote this book, I saw millions of women in their purpose, focused and not distracted by what other people were doing. I saw millions of women in position. I saw millions of women flourishing because GOD placed them where THEY were supposed to be. It's time to get in position, ladies. It's time to accomplish what the Lord has told you to do!

God loves you like crazy!
Love,
Heather Lindsey

Saturday, July 2, 2016

Trusting God with Your Tomorrow's




What are you stressed out about right now? What tests are you experiencing right now? I sense that there's such an attack on believers right now. It seems like it's one thing after another. Regardless of what you are experiencing right now, we must make a decision to hold tight to the word of God and NEVER ever let go. We must make a decision to not get depressed, worried or in fear about our tomorrows.

I love 2 Corinthians 12: 8-10 and it says: "Therefore, in order to keep me from becoming conceited, I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me. 8 Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. 9 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. 10 That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong."

What thorn are you dealing with right now? What is attacking you in your life? Something from your past? A circumstance? A tragedy? Finances? A relationship ended? Troubles on your job?

Regardless of the attack, God is saying to you that HIS GRACE is sufficient for you. Sufficient means adequate for the purpose; enough. 

ENOUGH. 

God's grace is ENOUGH for you. It's sufficient. It's adequate. It will complete you. It will fulfill you. It will give you hope. It will strengthen you. 

THEN, it says my POWER is made PERFECT in your weakness.

What is your weakness? Your temptation? Your hardest moment? That area where you're struggling most? 

Jesus is saying that HE IS GOING TO STRENGTHEN you to get through this test. It's TIME to grow. It's time to endure. Suffering comes to all of us and it doesn't mean that God hates you as you live for Him. He's simply a GREAT Father. As a Father, He notices things that are in you that aren't like Him. These tests are going to encourage you to surrender those tough areas to the Lord and leave them there. These tests are going to encourage you to trust Him and never quit. These tests are going to deepen your faith in the Lord. These tests are going to prepare you for your calling. 

James 1:2 says "Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy." 

Great JOY. Tests. Troubles. 

Wait, Heather -- I just want to curl up and not think, be depressed and not deal with anyone. Sis, it's time for you to get up and find a brand new joy in the Lord. We get the opportunity to pass these tests and REJOICE through whatever we are going through! We cannot quit on the Lord during those tough times. It's time to keep going! Keep praying! Keep fasting! Keep reading your bible! Cling to the Lord and don't EVER quit! He has not forgotten about you!

I don't know about you, but I am determined to not keep going around any mountains in my life. I don't want to be like the children of Israel where I go in circles in life because I am not willing to trust God. 

Yes, it's going to be hard. Yes. It's going to be tough. Yes, it's going to stretch you. But these are the sweet moments where we get to CLING to the Lord and NEVER, EVER let go. Immerse yourself in the Lord! Thank God for the rice you have for dinner. Thank God for the one pair of pants you have. Thank God for your single life. Thank God for your husband, even if your marriage is troubled. Thank God for the ability to read. Thank God for the strength and grace through the power of the Holy Spirt! Thank God for the money for the bus ticket. Thank God for your car that runs. Thank God for the roof over your head. 

Let's get back to a heart that is thankful, regardless of what we are going through. In those times in my life where things were the hardest, I learned to find true joy. My joy wasn't based on my situation or a happy moment, but in the Lord. In knowing that He loves me and that my days are ARRANGED because I have given my life to HIM. 

So, join me in trusting in the Lord. Let's go on a fast from worry. Let's capture those thoughts that oppose God and speak the word over our lives. Let's never quit.

Did you know that when you pray and pray in the Holy Spirit that it strengthens your faith, builds you up AND it fine tunes your hearing? So, it makes the connection CLEARER between you and the Lord. He is always talking, but most times the frequency is not clear because of the clutter and distractions in your life. We have to get back to prayer. We have to get back on our face before the Lord and stay there. 

Whenever I get tested, I like to write scriptures out longhand on notecards and meditate on them! Check out a few of my favorites!

"Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." Matt 6:34

"I can do all this through him who gives me strength."  Phil 4:13

"Those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint."  Isaiah 40:31

“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?" Matt 6:25-27

"But make up your mind not to worry beforehand how you will defend yourselves." Luke 21:14

"Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken." Psalm 55:22

"For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline." 2 Timothy 1:7

"I keep my eyes always on the LORD. With him at my right hand, I will not be shaken.."  Psalm16:8

"Truly he is my rock and my salvation; he is my fortress, I will not be shaken."  Psalm 62:6

"He will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart."  Psalm 91:4

"So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you;  I will uphold you with my righteous right hand."  Isaiah 41:10

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”  Jeremiah 29:11

"And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose." Romans 8:28

"The LORD is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and he helps me." Psalm 28:7

I lift up my eyes to the mountains— where does my help come from? My help comes from the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth."  Psalm 121:1-2

"They will have no fear of bad news;  their hearts are steadfast, trusting in the LORD."  Psalm 112:7

"Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.  And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."  Phil 4:6-7

"I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith."  2 Timothy 4:7


God loves you like crazy. 

Don't ever, ever quit. 

Love always,
Heather Lindsey

P.S. Sorry that I haven't been writing much! I've been very busy focusing on my new book, The Purpose Room which debuts July 15th! Eek!! I pray that the Lord uses it to minister to you! And, I've also been busy posting away on my Youtube Channel! Find it HERE! 

Just a few things:

1. Find my (5) books (including my NEW book, "The Runaway Bride"), purity rings, shirts & all that good stuff via pinkypromiseboutiques.com!

2. We have developed an APP! Think: daily post notifications + weekly devotionals, recipes and so much more! It's out NOW for iphones + Androids. Under: Heather & Cornelius Lindsey: Today With the Lindsey's

3.  If you live in Atlanta, I want to invite you to our church. Join us on Sundays at 11:00am. Our churches name is: "The Gathering Oasis"  3600 Snapfinger Rd Lithonia, GA 30038

4. Register for the 2016 Pinky Promise in Atlanta, GA! It sold out last year so you don't want to miss out! www.pinkypromiseconference.com

5. As always, you can join a Pinky Promise group locally! There's about 45,000 ladies that have joined! Find a group near you by joining & checking out the intro page! Join here: www.PinkyPromiseMovement.com


My  new book, The Purpose Room will debut July 15th!! Eeek! Find it on here!





Tuesday, May 24, 2016

Read This If You're Suffering From the "Mommy Guilt" Syndrome




So, one morning, I was scrolling on my TimeHop app and I saw that five years ago, around this time - my husband and I were in Dubai! It was SO much fun! We went out to visit a friend and host a small bible study. 

No kids. 

No mommy guilt. 

No "what is so & so doing?"

No worrying about my babies.

No stressing out about my babies.

No food prep before you leave for your babies.

No arranging with family members. 

No nothing.

Just a couple of carefree people, enjoying Dubai! 


A photo I snapped in 2011 of our hotel in Dubai

Now, when we go on trips, things change. Either the kids are coming with us and it feels like we are packing up a small studio apartment or, we are doing all of the above to arrange a safe and healthy environment for our babies. Don't get me wrong, our babies give us a brand new reason to live outside of purpose. Our babies are beautiful assignments that we take VERY seriously on this earth. We seek to raise them to know Jesus & accomplish their purpose on this earth. Now, we have an amazing responsibility that we've never had before to take care of these little beautiful humans. 

So, the moment we go anywhere - back to work, to travel, to do anything else -- all of the sudden your mind gets overwhelmed with the "what ifs?" 

Will my babies be ok in daycare?
What if my nanny isn't loving towards our babies?
Will my milk supply be enough while I'm gone?
Did I pump enough?
What if the plane crashes while traveling?
What if something happens to me! 
Who is going to raise my babies? Nobody can raise them like me! 

If you're a mama, you have felt these things. 


But, today - in the name of Jesus - we are going to be free from the guilt, condemnation and unnecessary expectations that we place on ourselves. 

Sis, through Christ - you are enough as a mother. Stop beating yourself up about taking time away from your kids as you're directed by the Lord. I had to learn that my children are GOD'S children too and He loves them MORE than I could ever love them. I think if we can grasp that concept, then we may be less controlling when it comes to these things. I believe that if we wake up, put one foot in front of the other and depend on the Lord's wisdom on how to raise our babies then THAT is enough. 

And trust me, I don't have this all together. I literally had to preach this to myself as I was preparing to head to London this week to preach at our conference. So, I did some research on guilt. It's "a bad feeling caused by knowing or thinking that you have done something bad or wrong." 

Is going to preach the gospel bad or wrong? 

Is going to work wrong?

Is going on a weekend trip with your husband to rekindle your marriage wrong? 
*Lets talk abut this really quick. Don't look up in 20 years and be an empty nester with your husband who is a stranger to you. You have to remember that YOU guys started together. It's so easy to get wrapped up in this or that  - instead, take time to focus on each other. Your kids NEED to see a healthy marriage. 

Is pumping like a mad woman & still not getting enough milk and then being FORCED to use formula wrong?

Is going on a weekend girls trip wrong?


Our sweet Taylor!

Absolutely not. 

In my case, I get the opportunity to be at home with our babies 24-7 and they typically travel with us! Leaving every now and then is ok. I had to remember that God is their Father first, they are in excellent hands and that it's a super quick ministry trip. Even in June, I have a girls trip coming up and I refuse to feel bad about it. I need times of refreshing. Times to pull away. Time to just sit there and reflect. Also, times to go to the bathroom without little fingers wiggling under the door. :)

So, I identify these things as false guilt.  

When it comes to feeling guilty, we must find the difference between false guilt and true guilt. It is normal to have feelings of guilt when we do something wrong—this is true guilt. But it is also possible to be innocent of something yet feel guilty about it—this is false guilt.

Like, the thoughts of am I an effective mother? 

Do I make the right decisions with our children?

Am I teaching them enough?

Are they eating healthy enough?

How am I supposed to make my kid eat healthy when they only want fries and pizza?

What vitamins should I give my children? Oh gosh, what if it's my fault that they aren't healthy?

 The main difference between false guilt and true guilt is their origins. False guilt has at least two possible points of origin: ourselves and the devil. One of the names of the devil in Scripture is “the accuser” (Revelation 12:10). It is a fitting name, as he accuses us to our own minds and consciences. Satan will bring to mind fears, worry and what ifs. And, because I know it's his job to distract me, 

I fight back with the word of God. 

So, repeat this after me:

I WILL NOT LIVE IN FEAR. GOD IS WITH ME! 

He has no authority over us. (Luke 10:19) 
 - So, why do we believe his word over God's word?

"Therefore as by the offence of one judgment came upon all men to condemnation; even so by the righteousness of one the free gift came upon all men unto justification of life."- Romans 5:18

The word "guilt" isn't found in scripture as it's a condition. We were conditioned to be guilty due to our sin nature. But, thank God for Jesus who lived and died for us so that we may be FREE from guilt and condemnation! God has FREED you! In His eyes, if we choose to beat ourselves us, then that's OUR choice an not HIS choice for us. 

I think there's a HUGE difference between conviction and guilt. For example, if I feel convicted to not let my son go to a children's party, or a sleepovers (sleepovers are a no, no in my book), or to a library class -- than I feel convicted by the Holy Spirit. I have learned the difference. I recall one time, I was traveling to preach somewhere and I stared at Logan's photo and videos for hours. (this was before Taylor). 

I was so distracted and emotional.

I missed my Logan. 

Then, the Lord said to me:: You are distracted Heather. You are more focused on Logan than you are on preaching and preparing for his message. Logan is fine. I have been taking care of him since he was conceived in your womb and I knew Him before then.  Rest your weary mind. 

Crap. 

Lord, I am up here being distracted and Logan is totally fine. 

So, your turn. What new articles are you meditating on and worrying about in your own life? Social media can be a spiritual battlefield for your mind if you aren't careful. You can read an article about a hot-car death or a something happening to a child while in nursery and fear over and over again. 

“Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing?  Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life” (Matt 6:25-27)?

I LOVE this scripture and I pray over my family! 

Psalm 91
1 Those who live in the shelter of the Most High
    will find rest in the shadow of the Almighty.
2 This I declare about the Lord:
He alone is my refuge, my place of safety;
    he is my God, and I trust him.
3 For he will rescue you from every trap
    and protect you from deadly disease.
4 He will cover you with his feathers.
    He will shelter you with his wings.
    His faithful promises are your armor and protection.
5 Do not be afraid of the terrors of the night,
    nor the arrow that flies in the day.
6 Do not dread the disease that stalks in darkness,
    nor the disaster that strikes at midday.
7 Though a thousand fall at your side,
    though ten thousand are dying around you,
    these evils will not touch you.

So, if you're struggling with any of the above, I encourage you to meditate on the scriptures, not on what you can see. Cast your care onto the Lord. He cares for you. (1 Peter 5:7). God has NOT given you the spirit of fear, but of power, love & a sound mind! 

What if something happens to you? We know that God is omnipresent. He will provide for HIS babies. He will take care of your family. The seeds you planted will soon harvest so that they will know Christ. If our parents forsake us, or leave this earth - God will become their parents. I know it's a hard truth, but do what you know to do. Write a will, get life insurance. Trust that the Lord knows your days on this earth and that He will take care of your babies and your family with long life. 

He cares for you and your babies and HE will give you wisdom on how to raise them. 

So, is Satan constantly trying to make you feel guilty about something in your past or even something as simple as traveling without your babies? Whatever the case, recognize the origin of the guilt. If you're a sinning, repent. If you're pursuing Jesus - stop beating yourself down & walk out what He has called you to do. Be free from guilt. 

Just a few things:

1. Find my (4) books (including my NEW book, "The Runaway Bride"), purity rings, shirts & all that good stuff via pinkypromiseboutiques.com!

2. We have developed an APP! Think: daily post notifications + weekly devotionals, recipes and so much more! It's out NOW for iphones + Androids. Under: Heather & Cornelius Lindsey: Today With the Lindsey's

3.  If you live in Atlanta, I want to invite you to our church. Join us on Sundays at 11:00am. Our churches name is: "The Gathering Oasis"  3600 Snapfinger Rd Lithonia, GA 30038

4. Register for the 2016 Pinky Promise in Atlanta, GA! It sold out last year so you don't want to miss out! www.pinkypromiseconference.com

5. As always, you can join a Pinky Promise group locally! There's about 45,000 ladies that have joined! Find a group near you by joining & checking out the intro page! Join here: www.PinkyPromiseMovement.com

God loves you like crazy,

Love always,
Heather Lindsey

So thankful for this guy. My hubby! :)































Wednesday, April 27, 2016

"How to Divorce-Proof Your Marriage"


Our sweet wedding day! 8/14/2010


Let's be honest, nobody gets married with the intent to get divorced. You get married with the mindset that it's "til death due us part." Then, you are in your marriage and then you find out that you had a certain expectations in marriage that you don't feel like are getting met. Then, you begin to compare your marriage to others, nag your spouse, then he's already stressed out and then he begins to work longer and doesn't open up so you vent to your mama, sisters and girlfriends and then you both live two completely different lives, under the same roof. You kinda feel like roommates.

Those days are coming to an end. Right now. Marriages are getting tested and hit so hard, it's so important that we do OUR part to make our marriages work. Yes, it's hard. Yes, there's times where I don't think my husband "deserves" it. Yes, its a constant sacrifice. Yes, you will develop and grow in your marriage. Yes, it will stretch you like NEVER before. And, I'm 110% confident that my husband feels the same way towards me. Marriage is beautiful work. The reality is that no relationship is perfect. If people are portraying perfection then they aren't telling the whole truth. And they don't have to share their tests with you. EVERY  marriage is working itself out & going through hurdles, beautiful times, rough storms and whatever else.

There's seasons to marriage.

Now, we are in the 6th year of our marriage and we've been together for 8 years. So, how do I know we aren't getting divorced? Honey, if we were gonna get divorced it would have happened in year one. It was ROUGH. I am thankful for those rough times because now we are in a different season in our marriage. I had to press past those feelings that my life was better outside of my marriage and recognize that everything I needed was right under the roof of Cornelius Lindsey. INCLUDING my purpose. It was all right there. And, if I left my covering, I left the calling on our marriage and I am not willing to do that.  I stood before God and I said my vows which included saying "I do" to a lot of things that I "don't." Like, picking up his socks and dirty dishes that he leaves everywhere! :) Instead of complaining about housework or the fact that he doesn't clean up much around the house - I instead focus on his strengths and I go pick up those socks. He's a GREAT husband, father, leader, pastor and visionary. He literally started a church from the bottom and it's thriving. He is caring, loving and kind. He constantly considers me and our children. He never stays out late and he ALWAYS puts us first. He has godly friends. He's always home by 5pm - ready to love on and serve me & our children. You see, these are just a COUPLE of the great things about my husband! AND, they cancel out the few pet peeves. Isn't it funny how satan just gets in our head and tries to get us mad at our spouses about small things? Your issue may not be socks. It could be something big like adultery or if your husband stays out late. Well, I think that there's something beautiful about letting God change YOU and then you will watch your husband change.

You may be thinking I'm kinda' crazy especially since I don't know your husband. Well, I do know the One who created your husband in his mother's womb and His name is God. He sent His only son down to the earth to die for our sins and reconcile us back to Him through Jesus Christ. He defeated death. He defeated sin. He won for us. Can He NOT heal and fix your marriage? Can He not give you wisdom on him since He created your husband? I found that when my marriage what at it's worst, my mouth and attitude was at it's worse. I was nagging my husband's every move, I was rebellious and I didn't submit to him. How can I expect a good marriage if I refuse to develop in self control and I blame my husband for the discontentment birthed in me as a single? I realized that I have a PART to play in the success of my marriage. I cannot blame my rejection growing up, my insecurity or whatever else. I had to take responsibility for Heather. And, as women, I pray that you do the same. You know I love ya'll and I just want to see you thriving in marriage and showing others that God heals dead marriages!

So, whether you're courting, engaged or married - I wanted to share a few things that I've learned.


1. It is the Holy Spirit's job to change my husband, my job is to pray for Him. No, seriously. My nagging, complaining and whatever else will only temporarily get my husband to change. So, he will do certain things just to shut me up - not because it's real. When the Holy Spirit gets a hold of your husband, that change is eternal. 

2. Don't freak out when he tells you crazy stories from the gym, when he went paintballing or in general. I want him to share everything with me & he won't if I get overly emotional & motherly on his tail. Who wants to sleep with their mother? Nobody. Thus, let's stop talking down as if your husband isn't grown himself. And, what if he does hurt himself rock climbing up some mountain? Well, you'll be there to nurse him to health & help him to feel better. That's the testosterone in a man, sis! Just revert back to #1 and pray that He has wisdom on what to do. 

3. Marriage is a journey. So you marry someone who doesn't have your deal breakers and.. Then get ready to go on a journey. If my hubby doesn't "figure it out" in a certain area by year 2, he will figure it out in year 4. Be patient. You're both growing.  My hubby is GROWING into my dream guy. And, He is things that I didn't even know that I wanted or needed. Like, the biggest family man ever! Our family is together about 21 hours of the day and we LOVE it! #Grace

4. Shut up. Yup. We both shut up a lot with each other. There's no point in arguing because we aren't divorcing. Choose your battles. We pursue peace like crazy in our home, put on our big girl & boy pants & act like Christian adults. If an argument gets heated, we use the code word "Jesus" and all arguments cease until a later time when emotions aren't so high. 

5. Protect your marriage. Me & my husband are one flesh and I want make sure others see him like they see me. I will always be his number one fan and vice versa. I ain't sharing our arguments with people who will hold onto it long after we made up. Meaning, I am not calling my mama and complaining to her because although I may forgive my husband - it may take her longer to forgive. Although my mother is amazing and very loving - I'm still her baby girl. #Protection

6. We don't bring up the past. It's behind us for a reason. Move on. #Grace
7. If your spouse is saying a concern, listen. They know you best and believe them. #Mirror

8. You better learn to be content broke or with money because that can make or break your marriage. We had a season our first year of marriage where we ate rice for dinner most nights. I lit a candle and we had a candlelight dinner. And, you better believe if we ever got evicted, we would be evicted together in a tent on the street. Cuddling. For richer or for poor will get tested. #HesMine

9. He loves me like Christ loves the church and submits to God and I submit to him as onto the Lord. He's my leader. And, God honors us because we honor him.

10. If I ever feel like ministry or life is getting too busy and we aren't focused on each other, I tell Cornelius ..and he shuts his whole day down to spend it with me. I use my concerns wisely. I don't use them emotionally so this happens maybe 1-2x a year. We got work to do but family is first after God. #MarriageGodsWay 

11. Laugh a lot. Stop taking everything so serious!! Literally, find what is funny and do that together. (Make sure it's biblical/not making fun of others, etc)

12. Be his biggest cheerleader! The world is going to try to tear him down and when he walks into his home, He shouldn't get the same treatment - even if you don't think he deserves it. 

13. A rough patch in your marriage doesn't define your marriage. It's just a moment. Press through it and fight for your marriage and stop fighting each other. 

14. Your marriage is what you make it - so make it so good!



15. Use discernment when bringing up issues (example: if my husband just got done preaching, it's not the time to dump all of my issues onto him)

16. Your husband is not your God. He cannot solve all of your problems and fix your crazy thoughts. Only Jesus can do that so if you're feeling disconnected from your husband it may be because you're feeling disconnected to God. Let Him show you what to do. Our first relationship with with Jesus and then our spouse.

17. Find time to go to marriage retreats together. YOU NEED that time where you grow together. Our church, The Gathering Oasis has a marriage retreat every year. If you cannot make this one, find one locally but get away and try to attend one a year. You have to remember why you started together. This years retreat is Sept 31-August 4th in Scottsdale, AZ.

18. Don't let your children become first. It's hard when your kids scream louder than your husband but it's important that your husband still feels first and the kids second (of course with Jesus as your foundation). I love Logan but I make it clear to him that I make daddy's & logan's plate together but mommy serves daddy first. And, he helps me serve him. I want to make sure Logan sees it so when he starts courting, he understands how he should be treated by a woman. I don't want to look up to an empty nest "home" in 20 years and I don't know my husband because I spent more time grooming and serving my kids while ignoring my husband. Granted, if Logan is super hungry - my hubby will make him food or I will really quick but on a average day, I want him to see that I get to serve my husband.

19. Schedule date days! Every Friday, we have our date lunch and every Saturday is our family day. It's so important that you are intentional with your family.  Your family life is as strong as your marriage.

20. Lastly, seek the Lord with all of your heart and spend time with Him daily. Pray for your spouse, ask the Lord to help you to love him. Ask the Lord to help him to love you like Christ loved the church.

BONUS: Tell yourself that you have no plan "b" and that divorce is not an option. In our home, we have decided that we will not divorce. That word isn't even allowed in our thoughts or conversations! So, if you have a plan b - you need to cut that person off, quit the job because that man keeps giving you attention and do whatever else it takes to guard your heart.

You may read this and say, "Heather, this won't work for me. I have a one-sided marriage." Well, I know I've loved my husband when I felt like he didn't deserve it. My husband loved me when I didn't deserve it. We are all taking steps to love like Jesus loves us. That's the kind of marriage I want to have - a marriage centered around Christ, loving HIS way. Give marriage His way a chance. You never know what He could do to restore your marriage.

Well, that's all for now! I love you all!

Just a few things:

1. Find my (4) books (including my NEW book, "The Runaway Bride"), purity rings, shirts & all that good stuff via pinkypromiseboutiques.com!

2. We have developed an APP! Think: daily post notifications + weekly devotionals, recipes and so much more! It's out NOW for iphones + Androids. Under: Heather & Cornelius Lindsey: Today With the Lindsey's

3.  If you live in Atlanta, I want to invite you to our church. Join us on Sundays at 11:00am. Our churches name is: "The Gathering Oasis"  3600 Snapfinger Rd Lithonia, GA 30038

4. Register for the 2016 Pinky Promise in Atlanta, GA! It sold out last year so you don't want to miss out! www.pinkypromiseconference.com

5. We are headed to London for the Holy Desperation Conference! Join us! www.lindseysinlondon2016.eventbee.com 

6. As always, you can join a Pinky Promise group locally! There's about 45,000 ladies that have joined! Find a group near you by joining & checking out the intro page! Join here: www.PinkyPromiseMovement.com

God loves you all like crazy!
Love,
Heather Lindsey 


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