There is NO such thing as only one guy for you or the “perfect” mate. If there was, then God would take away your right to choose. You are a free moral agent, you have a CHOICE to live for God or live for Satan. You have a choice to date a good, godly man, or date a fool. You have a CHOICE to have sex before marriage or get it in everyday while you’re dating. (No wonder it’s taking him so long to propose) It’s all wrapped up in a CHOICE. Ladies, you get to choose whose vision you want to follow. If you are dating someone and he doesn’t know where he’s going..he’s taking all these random jobs, he’s confused, you are confused ..WHY the heck is he dating you? Genesis 2:18 says that “It is not good that man should be alone, I will make a help meet for him”. Adam needed a HELPER to tend the garden with him. If Adam was sittin’ in the garden sayin’ to God “I don’t feel like namin’ all them animals, I’m chillin’, I want to be a rapper. I don’t wanna tend no garden"—I bet Eve wouldn’t have come for awhile until he accepted the vision that God gave Adam earlier in that chapter. If Adam aint have no job, he wouldn’t need EVE. How you gonna HELP someone that doesn’t know what they are doing and they are more focused on “helping” themselves to your BODY then helping you to cultivate the characteristics in you so you can BE an effective helper.
Cornelius is not the only man I could marry..I’m sure there’s hundreds of men I could have married. However, we got to know each other, he was checking me out to see if I had the characteristics to HELP him with what God called him to do. I was checking out his vision, standards, and how he lived his life. We weren’t laying up, kissing, rubbin’ and putting ourselves in compromising situations. We set boundaries and stuck to them. No kissing, no sleeping under the same roof, no late night phone calls for all hours on end, no movies, nada. How can I properly see if HE can lead me if emotions and soul ties are tied up the relationship? It would have CLOUDED the vision I have of him. Then, I’ll marry “a guy” with a clouded vision of him, and then when the smoke clears..we divorce because, we “grew apart” or he fit how I "used to see myself" When Cornelius proposed to me the question he asked was “Will you marry me” AKA—Will you accept my vision.
WHY the heck would you marry a man that has no vision, no direction, unstable and without God. I can assure you that your life will continue in that. NOW, the reason Cornelius is “perfect” for me is because we gonna WORK our relationship to PERFECTION. We work DAILY to make it work. Our foundation is SOLID. A relationship is nothing but a daily decision to make it WORK. Get that dumb fantasy OUT of your mind that “prince charming” is gonna come & sweep you off your feet—cuz “Prince charming” got an issue. Everybody do. You date to see what yo issue is..and see if you can live with it.. Don’t marry an expectation that you can “change that person.” So if he AINT know Jesus befo’ ya’ll started dating…don’t try to go “get him saved”. And if he’s “charming” you, I’m sure he’s “charming” others. Charm is a SPIRIT that needs to be dealt with.
“Genesis 18:14- is anything to hard or too wonderful for the Lord..at the appointed time..Sarah will get pregnant by her husband, Abraham. “ How does that apply? The situations and circumstances didn’t look like Sarah could get pregnant at her old age. It may not look like you are meeting anyone that fits your standards, you might FEEL lonely. You MAY be getting older. I tell you today, GET your eyes off that lie. Get BUSY about the things of God. Join a church, become active, spend time with God, get authentic about your relationship with Him. The MAKER is your husband (Isaiah 54:5). CUT off any fool that’s hindering you from all of the above. If you have to ask if that person is hindering you, they are. There’s NOT just one person. But you must be EQUIPPIED to recognize the COUNTERFIET. God will present you WITH one with standards and he will measure up. Will you be patient and trust Him or will you go “make it happen?” I can assure you that if you do the latter, you’ll get YOUR results. Aren’t you tired of that? I would be.