Wednesday, February 15, 2017

"Not -So Happy Valentines Day"

I know that Valentine's Day just passed and I pray that you didn't measure it by the gifts you received or didn't receive or if you're single or not. I recall one year, my now-husband didn't get me the gift I wanted him to get me for Valentine's Day. I know it sounds stupid, but I was mad. I felt like he should have put more thought into the gift. And, it showed on my face. I'm confident that He easily felt like "nothing is ever good enough for Heather."  And He was right. I grabbed ahold of that discontentment I struggled with during my single life and brought it with me into my engagement.

Then, the Holy Spirit immediately checked my spirit. Heather, you're selfish.


How am I selfish Lord??! Because I want him to put more effort?

"Heather, how did you gauge his effort? By your own standards of what you think you need?"

I mean, come on, Lord. We are engaged.

"Heather, you have once again made things about you. Have you considered Cornelius at all? What about what you didn't get him? And, isn't he one you prayed for?"

And, in that moment, I realized that just 2 years before that, I spent Valentine's Day alone.


And, I was fine with it. I was finally content in the Lord and learning how to trust His timing. Hey, that contentment only took about 7 years.  I sent myself some flowers because I loved that they added some joy to my dining room but I was good. I prayed for my future husband and I refused to make it an idol. I assured God often that if He sent me a husband, then I would always appreciate him.

 So, at one point did I become this critical woman where I judged gifts? How silly of me? God sent me a guy that wouldn't kiss me until my wedding day and now I am rolling my eyes at his flowers, poem, gifts and the love he has shown me.

So, whether yesterday was the reality of your beautiful singleness or whether you didn't feel like your man put in enough effort, I want you to focus on what is going WELL in your life. At times, we can become such an entitled generation. Wanting what want, when we want it - and not bothering to look at what we are bringing to the table of any relationship.

That day, I decided to create a list of the good things that the Lord was doing in me.

1. The fact that He saved me and that I hear His voice.
2. I have an amazing fiance who honors me.
3. I have a great job in NYC.
4. I am a leader at my church
5. I have a sound mind.
6. I have a place to stay and I am comfortable.
7. I have a wonderful family
8. I have a amazing friends
AND.. that list went on & on!

So, after the Lord checked my heart, I decided that I needed to renew my mind. I told my now husband that he doesn't have to get me gifts because Hallmark says it's time to get gifts and let's find a way to give back to people in need. So, that next Valentines Day, we went to a low-income nursing home and we brought a ton of food, gifts and games. It was the BEST Valentines Day EVER! AND, it wasn't about US.  I have learned that as a believer, I cannot pick and choose when I am going to be selfish.

And He was saying to them all, "If anyone wishes to come after Me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross daily and follow Me. "For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake, he is the one who will save it. - Luke 9:23-24

At times, we can make life all about us. This goes for any holiday in general. I challenge you to stop letting holidays ruffle your feathers and be intentional about giving back to others. 

"But, Heather, ain't nothing wrong with celebrating me! I can celebrate myself!" Well, my sister, frustrations are birthed when you have unmet expectations. And, for the rest of your life, if you constantly walk around with mind-reader expectations, you will find that some people may meet them, but then again, some may not. You will get frustrated again at some point. 

But, if you decide to give your expectations to the Lord and find a way to be a blessing to someone else, you will find more joy, more peace, and you will be less stressed out on these man-made holidays.

Do you see how silly these distractions can be in your life? Our focus on this earth is to bring glory to God, not to get tied up in "what about me?" 

So, cheers for not being moved by what we see. Cheers for walking by faith. Cheers for becoming more other-centered.

And, just a few things.

1. Be sure to register for the Pinky Promise Conference! We have SOLD out of every conference since day 1! Make sure you plan early and attend the annual "sleepover" lol 
If you need a roomie, head on over to and click on the roommate forum.

 2. Desiring to publish a book, or do you need tips with entrepreneurship? Me & my husband host a Youtube Channel called, Lincross Academy where we talk ALL things publishing, professional do's & don't's, writers block and SO much more! Find it HERE.

 3. I just uploaded a new video onto my youtube channel, titled Learning How To Be Faithful with Little. I pray that you watch it if you're struggling with being faithful with small things.

 4. And, just a reminder that I'm headed to Washington, DC next week! (Feb 25th). It's free! We will be at the First Baptist Church of Glenarden Ministry Center in Landover, MD, 20785. It starts at 6:30pm! We would LOVE to meet you! 

5. London & Capetown, we are coming your way! Join us for the Revival Tour in Capetown, SA on May 27th and in London on June 2-3, 2017! Join us by registering HERE. 

6. Lastly, our church venue as MOVED! We are currently at the Marriott at the Galleria in Smyrna, GA until the beginning of March 2017. We will share our new venue after that time!

God loves you like crazy!
Heather Lindsey 
Dubai Feb 2017

Thursday, January 26, 2017

Happy 5th Anniversary Pinky Promise!

Ahhhh!! Can you BELIEVE that Pinky Promise has been going STRONG for 5 YEARS? God is SO good, SO faithful and SO amazing! I'm literally blown away by the testimonies that have been birthed from you all. I have heard some pretty amazing stories. From women that wanted to commit suicide to breaking off ungodly relationships, to fighting for your marriage, to stepping out into your purpose AND to finally having a group of women around you that really love Jesus. This organization has kept me accountable in more ways than one. It helped my MARRIAGE from the very beginning. How? I knew that I couldn't lead an organization if my HOME life wasn't in order. So, I learned to submit to my husband as unto the Lord, I learned that spirit of shut up (self-control), I learned to grace my husband the way that Jesus graces me. And, I quickly realized that I cannot push the blame on others. I needed to change. My friendships got better. I valued those that were around me so much more. I was more intentional. More patient. More loving and I prayed for my friends like never before. My purpose became more clear to me. I knew without a shadow of doubt that God called me to preach, help women and share my story in hopes to bring people to Jesus.

 I just said yes.

And, on today's 5th anniversary, I challenge you to say YES too. Say YES to Jesus. YES to His will. YES to His ways. YES to the life that He has for you.

And, I challenge you to say no.

NO to your negative feelings. NO to bad ungodly dating relationships. NO to rebellion on marriage. NO to thoughts of suicide. NO to quitting on the Lord. I can assure you, that in 20 years, we will celebrate 25 years of Pinky Promise. Will you still be sitting on the dreams and visions that the Lord gave you?

Whether the Lord is telling you to be still & obey Him, to if He is telling you to cut off some stuff, I encourage you to obey. There is SOMETHING on the other side of it all. If Pinky Promise has impacted you, we would LOVE to hear your testimony!
Please send a couple paragraphs + your name and where you're from to:!

And, just a few things.

1. Can you believe that our FIRST Pinky Promise Conference was 4 years ago TODAY? Ahhh! And, we have SOLD out of every conference since. Make sure you plan early and attend the annual "sleepover" lol 
If you need a roomie, head on over to and click on the roommate forum.

 2. We are doing a SALE at the Pinky Promise Boutique to celebrate today! All items are 25% off for TODAY only! Use the code: CELEBRATE - make sure you use all CAPS! :) 

 3. I just uploaded a new video onto my youtube channel, titled STORMY SEASONS. I pray that you watch it if you're going through a storm or a hard time.

 4. And, just a reminder that I'm headed to Pearland, Texas this Friday. Details are here: If you're in the area, I would love to meet you!

5. We are headed to Nigeria &Kenya over the next couple of weeks! AHH! Join us if you're in those areas! We will be headed to Capetown, SA &; London in May/June. All details: 

6. Lastly, our church venue as MOVED! We are currently at the Marriott at the Galleria in Smyrna, GA until the end of March 2017. We will share our new venue after that time!

That's all for now. I am excited about another 5 years together. Stay focused. Stay in prayer and don't ever give up.

Monday, January 9, 2017

The Heather Lindsey Show: Casting & Audience

Hey everyone!
I am SUPER excited that I actually start TAPING my new show next week. NEXT week! Ahhh! I am BEYOND excited! I will be taping about 30-60 shows this year so I'm thrilled about the topics and what the Lord is going to do through The Heather Lindsey Show!

Just a few things!

1. This is a talk show! I create the topics, direct it and all of that other good stuff!

2. The studio audience seats 45 people.

3. Each segment is 28 minutes.

4. I will record 4 shows in one day!

5. My husband and I will be hosting a book signing at the END of the last taping.

LOCATION: The Word Network - 20733 W 10 Mile Rd, Southfield, MI 

Please note that the seats are FIRST come, FIRST serve. If the studio is at capacity, we will let the line in for the second show but everyone must leave after every show. There's a great chance that you may be able to stay for a couple shows based on the line. There's only 45 seats and the shows are only 28 minutes long. So, if you can be patient, we would LOVE to have you there!

We are looking for people that love Jesus and that can bring a ton of energy to the show. We will have a "ask Heather" section of the show in which you will ask Heather a question live on air. Please be prepared with a question!

And, each show will have a "giveaway" where we give away an item to a studio audience member!

Tuesday, January 17th times: 7pm, 7:45pm, 8:30pm, 9:15pm.
Wednesday, January 18th times: 7pm, 7:45pm, 8:30pm, 9:15pm.

If you want to be a guest, we are casting for the following places:

1. COUPLE: A couple that is either waiting to kiss until they get married or a couple that waited already and they are married. (Male/Female in their late teens, 20's-30's.)

2. MALE: Single male (late teens, 20's-30's) that is pursuing God wholeheartedly.

3. WOMAN: Woman who has struggled with infertility, pregnancy or has adopted a child. (late teens, 20's-30's, 40's)

4. MALE/FEMALE: Doesn't have to be a couple. A male and female that is very opinionated about what they want in a spouse before marriage. (late teens, 20's-30's)

Must include in order to be considered:
Recent Photo
A short blurb of your story
Must be a Christian.
Your age
Phone number
Location *You must be in the Detroit area for the tapings. The Word Network and the Heather Lindsey show does not provide travel or lodging for guests*

If you want to be considered for casting: Please email and put CASTING (What you're casting for) in the subject line. 

If you own a company and you want to give away an item, please email

Also, we are still looking for a great makeup artist! Please send rates, photos of your looks to 

Yay!! Can't wait to see ya'll! :)

God loves you like crazy,

Heather Lindsey

Tuesday, December 27, 2016

Tough Year?

Have you had a tough year? I don't know about you - but 2016 has had some AMAZING highs, and some stressful low's. I have been STRETCHED spiritually like NEVER before.

I remember one day, I was at the gym, working out and I was just thinking about the spiritual attacks. As I was working out on the stair stepper, I heard the Holy Spirit interrupt my thoughts and tell me, "Heather, I am preparing you for something so much greater."

It was the sweetest, purest words to me in that moment. Although I preach about the preparation, development, trusting in the Lord, resting in His timing, rejoicing during the tests - but then that moment comes where you're faced with what you preach and post about. At times, it seems like it's so easy to encourage everyone else but when it comes to yourself? Well, you're a little bit harder on you.

As I stepped on that Stairmaster, I told the Lord that I will rejoice in this test. I told Him that I am thankful to share in a TINY bit of His persecution. I was thankful to share in a TINY bit of His suffering for righteous sake.

And, in every time and in every moment, I have watched the Lord strengthen me through those tests.

So, if 2016 has been a year of stretching for you too - I want to encourage you that if you've been SOWING love, peace, joy, OBEDIENCE, trusting God when you don't' understand and walking by FAITH - GOD HONORS it. It is NOT in vain. I love harvest season because I know when I'm passing a spiritual test, I will see a spiritual harvest. Ya'll KNOW I am not one to say that "THIS IS GONNA BE YOUR NEW YEAR" - because I don't know what season you're in but I DO know that if WE stay like those TREES that are planted by the rivers of water (Psalms 1:3) that we will BRING forth FRUIT in our season, our LEAF will not wither and whatever we do will prosper.


So, don't dig your tree up and move it somewhere else if things are hard. Stay planted. Just stay there. Stay in that test and PASS it. Don't run back to your past. Don't rush back to what was once comfortable.  I can ASSURE you that you will see something on the other side of it ALL. When you live a life of disobedience, it HINDERS the Lord from working in you. So, repent sis, turn back around and endure! God will give you the strength to pass whatever is in front of you.

I started this blog to you all this morning and then I got confirmation that I have my own show on the WORD network (AHH!) called "The Heather Lindsey Show." If you've been following the ministry, you know that I've always wanted to host again but I put it down because the Lord told me to do so for a season. And, almost 10 years later, I'm picking it back up again.

I'm completely convinced that there's a PATH for each and every one of you (Jeremiah 1:5). Your story may not look like my story because it's YOUR story, but, along that path of saying YES to Jesus - you will find the life that He has prepared for you. This doesn't mean that tests stop. Actually, they will probably increase. But, it simply means that you get to lean on and depend on the Lord for every breath. I can assure you, with tears in my eyes - God is faithful. If He does nothing else, I want you to know that He longs for a relationship with you. He longs to walk with you. He longs to be close to you. He longs to speak to you. He longs to LEAD your life. Put down that strife and division in your heart and open up your heart to Him. He's constantly waiting.

I always say that a new year isn't a new you unless you renew your mind and say Yes to our Jesus. So, cheers to committing to spend the next year at the feet of our Jesus. He never fails us.

I love you all so much. I'm not sure if you know how much I truly love you but I pray for you all on a regular basis. I want to see you win. I want to see you walk in your purpose. I want to see you free from bitterness, I want to see you bold. I want to see you committed to Jesus. So, cheers to never quitting.

Just a few things:

1. Find my (6) books (including my NEW book, "Fighting Together") purity rings, shirts & all that good stuff via!

2. We have developed an APP! Think: daily post notifications + weekly devotionals, recipes and so much more! It's out NOW for iphones + Androids. Under: Heather & Cornelius Lindsey: Today With the Lindsey's
3. Register for the 2017 Pinky Promise in Atlanta, GA! It sold out last year so you don't want to miss out!

4. As always, you can join a Pinky Promise group locally! There's about 50,000 ladies that have joined! Find a group near you by joining & checking out the intro page! Join here:

5. We are headed on a Revival Tour to Kenya, Nigeria, London and Capetown. Register here: 

God loves you like crazy,


Heather Lindsey

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